The beginning of a new relationship is really exciting! You have the time to get to know each other, put on your best listening skills, live in the moment… you ultimately become the best version of yourself because you want to make a good impression. Both people are filled with joy and happiness which we all know attracts that much more of it!
Naturally, other life events take place and your relationship gets put on the back burner. Your career takes off, work gets busy, family situation arise, you may have settled into a mundane routine or have children tugging you in every direction. It happens, no relationship is perfect all the time. However, in a healthy relationship, both people feel good about their relationship no matter what the circumstance.
A great relationship takes more than attraction – it takes time, patience, honesty and commitment. Both of you have to be willing to put in the effort to nourish your special connection. These ten reminders will help keep your relationship in a healthy, positive and happy place.
1. Stay True to Yourself
You were someone with hobbies & interests before you got together. Don’t forget who you are. Staying true to self and having your own things going on outside of the relationship will keep you happy and immensely confident. It helps you to be a better person for the relationship. Do things to fill your own cup. Do that paint night with your girlfriends or dirt biking with the guys, go to the late night yoga class or spend the day in the garage working on a project. Take time for yourself that make your heart content and your soul thrive.
2. Show Signs of Appreciation for Each Other
They say that a persons greatest emotional need is to feel appreciated. Appreciate your partner for everything they do and everything that they are. You chose each other for a reason. Saying thank you is great but try expressing your gratitude and appreciation in other creative ways, actions speak volumes. Try giving your partner a massage or a foot rub during movie night, put little love notes on the mirror or in their lunch to remind them of how much they mean to you. Perhaps bring home flowers or treat them to something that will make them smile. Do as you would be done by.
3. Communication is Key
Communication is key and a solid foundation to a healthy relationship! Talk to your partner about your how your day went, share your feelings, thoughts and ideas. Ask questions and truly listen to their answers. Put down your phone and give them your full attention. Trust is built on working together through problems, life situations and personal development. Communication makes your relationship that much more stronger. Having dinner together without the TV on is a great way to connect at the end of the day without any distractions. Invest in your relationship by keeping an open line of communication.
4. Being Honest
Honesty is everything. Be truthful with each other about what you do, think, and feel. Honesty creates trust and having trust for one another is admirable and very important to maintaining a healthy relationship. If something is bothering you, it’s best to talk about it instead of holding it in. A relationship is like a mirror, you are a reflection of one another in a variety of different ways. If the mirror ever gets damaged, there is no replacing it. If the person really matters to you, keep things honest.
Forgive and ask for forgiveness. Everybody makes mistakes. Be willing to apologize for yours and accept your partner’s apologies. We are all human, throughout life we are faced with many challenges and obstacles that bring out different emotions in us. Personal growth and development requires errors and mistakes so we can truly learn right from wrong given the situation. If your boundaries weren’t crossed and the situation can heal, then forgive with all you got.
6. Respecting Each Other
Respect means that you don’t have authority over each other, that you grow together and with one another from a level playing field. Just because you love each other does not mean that you have to agree on everything. Your partner’s wishes and feelings have value, and so do yours. Let your significant other know you are making an effort to keep their ideas in mind. Mutual respect is essential in maintaining healthy relationships. Many people believe that respect is just as important as love when in a relationship.
7. Being Supportive
Offer reassurance and encouragement to each other. Also, let your partner know when you need their support. Healthy relationships are about building each other up, not putting each other down. Life throws curve balls, unexpected events, situations and many great opportunities, by supporting one another through life’s ups and downs you will build a special bond with each other. Be your significant others’ #1 fan!
Disagreements happen all the time! At work, within our families and with our partners. They are a natural part of healthy relationships, but it’s important that you find a way to compromise if you disagree on something. Try to solve conflicts in a fair and rational way. If you need to take time after an argument or heated discussion, do it – don’t let heightened emotions jeopardize your relationship. Take a walk, sleep on it if need be or create space to come to a compromise. Remember, it’s not what you say, its how you say it that matters. Resolve issues or disagreements with a proactive attitude, a sympathetic perspective and a level headed approach.
9. Keeping the Intimacy Alive
So we’ve covered the important foundations of having a healthy relationship: staying true to yourself, show signs of appreciation, maintain open communication, respect and honesty with each other but what about intimacy? After all, that is how things originally took off isn’t it? You enjoyed each others company, you talked for hours on end and gave each other something that you truly cannot put a price on – your time.
You used your time wisely to create meaningful space for one another to connect. By doing this, you allow for the intimacy in your relationship to be nourished as well as grow.
10. Date Night!
When you first got together you know you felt that magnetic energy that made you two want to spend time together. Going out on dates or making space for a romantic evening at home goes hand in hand with keeping the intimacy alive. You have to make time for each other to nourish your, reconnect and enjoy each other’s company.
All in all, these 10 tips on maintaining a healthy relationship are all signs of love: forgiveness, honesty, open communication. Everyday you can choose to see with love, this doesn’t mean you are a pushover, but that you see with only the highest good in each situation that arises.
For fun, you and your partner can sit down one evening and learn each other 5 love languages. The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate is a 1992 book by Gary Chapman. It outlines five ways to express and experience love between romantic partners that Chapman calls “love languages.” According to Chapman, the five ways to express and experience love that Chapman calls “love languages” are: receiving gifts, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service (devotion), and physical touch.
How do you keep the romance alive? What helps nourish your relationship? Let us know in the comment section below!